At the meeting please have with you anyone you think might make a significant contribution in helping me understand the life of your loved one and what made them special. This would normally, but not exclusively, be close family members and/or close friends. If there are peopIe whom you would like to be at the meeting, but they cannot make it, please either write their stories down in advance of meeting me, or ask them to email me their memories directly. It helps if people have thought about stories before they meet with me. I recognise that you are going through a very tough time and will support you and your family and friends in a professional and sympathetic manner. If anyone is emailing me then please let me know so that, if necessary, I can check with you that the email has arrived. I may ask your permission to record the meeting as an aide memoire for my preparations. Any such recordings are deleted as soon as the eulogy has been confirmed.


At the meeting I aim to get a clear idea about who your loved one was: Their passions and interests. The key points of their life. The jobs they held and their favourite holiday destinations. The football team they supported or the music they loved. I will weave all of the information together to tell the tale of your loved one. Within a couple of days I will email you a draft of the eulogy and invite you to make comment on it. It is important to check your junk mail folder just in case the message ends up there. After any changes have been made a final draft will be sent for approval and the service will then be confirmed.